From a Father to a Daughter: Love Heals Families, One Day at a Time
Love heals women, one day at a time; and, love heals family relationships, one day at a time. Love Heals is a beautiful motto but there is so much in the details that defines the true meaning.
Thistle Farms is the miracle that my daughter Rachel needed coming out of prison having lost everything in her life. The miracle she needed provided a safe place for recovery from almost 20 years of substance abuse and addiction -- years of treatment, recovery and relapse.
At some point on her journey and through incarceration, Rachel made a courageous decision to stop abusing drugs. Having a strong, positive environment to go directly to, provided her with the support, encouragement, security and the love she needed to be grounded and develop her commitment to establishing a new life. At Thistle Farms she found the motivation and inspiration to focus on rebirth, development, and re-education. She had available to her the daily things one needs that could overwhelm and distract from recovery; food, shelter, medical and dental care, work, ability to earn money and self respect, individual counseling, group counseling and a loving and understanding staff at every point in daily life in a nurturing holding environment for a sufficient amount of time that fosters growth.
Knowing Rachel had a safe environment for her journey, gave me, as her father, the comfort and confidence to continue on my recovery journey, which I began during her incarceration. Once a week I now attend two 12-step programs for parents and families with addiction, Al-Anon and Families Anonymous. The strength of the Thistle Farms program provided a secure environment for Rachel, which helped me to pursue my recovery from co-dependence. We were on parallel journeys to recovery.
Because both of us gained strength and confidence on our parallel journeys, we were able to focus on rebuilding our father-daughter relationship. We have been doing that now for 2 years, Rachel with the support of her therapeutic environment, me with the support and bonds of other families and Al-Anon model. We have been successfully experiencing the healing power of love on her recovery, my recovery, and rebuilding our relationship, one day at a time.
-- Irwin G. (aka Rachel's Dad)
With tremendous gratitude to Rachel and Irwin!